Finding the one you want to spend the rest of your life with is more miraculous than you can imagine. Out of all the people in the world, you found a person who knows your heart and a person whose heart injects the happiness you’ve never felt before. Now, it is time to ask the question, the one that takes a hold of a heart when love is in full bloom.
The only problem is figuring out how to make this moment special, especially in today’s modern times. There is a lot to consider, from keeping the moment a secret to sharing the proposal online, just to mention a few things. Those going nuts attempting to figure out how to make their proposal perfect may want to breathe just a bit, and take the following guide into consideration before popping that big question to the love of your life.
Is the Surprise Proposal Still Important?
It is true that the marriage proposal is changing in a lot of ways; for one, more of them are becoming public spectacles rather than simple affairs between two lovers. Furthermore, these proposals are becoming quite elaborate and are usually filmed with the hope that they will become a viral hit. The elaborate nature of these proposals makes it impossible for them to not be carefully staged. Most of the time, the proposal is planned by the couple instead of just the partner asking the question.
“While there is still a certain romance to this old-fashioned way of proposing, many couples are choosing to shop for the engagement ring together,” says JacobMercari.com. A study reports that 33 percent of couples are doing their best to create the perfect proposal and find the right ring together. It should also be pointed out that around six percent of soon-to-be-wedded individuals who were proposed to wished they would have been more involved in the process. These numbers are radically different from the past where the proposal was supposed to be a complete surprise.
Ethical Buying is Part of the Romance Now
Keeping the person you love in the dark about something this important is definitely changing for all kinds of reasons as you can probably imagine, but there is much more to consider. For example, according to EcoWarriorPrincess.net, “The global diamond trade has a dark side, blood diamonds also referred to as conflict diamonds are associated with several harsh realities; the industry funds civil wars and ongoing violence, exploitation and suffering of workers as well as environmental degradation. These conflict diamonds are being mined in violent and unethical situations and in some cases military and police officials have been linked to the mining companies harvesting these conflict diamonds.” More people are worried about how their engagement ring was made or where it came.The reason this is happening is because some stones are unethically mined through forced labor, which definitely puts a stain on what is supposed to be a symbol of pure love.
The perfect modern-day proposal needs to take this into account. It is one reason the couple has to do their best to find an ethical stone to go into the engagement ring. Tracing diamonds to their origin is not easy, meaning you could be buying a conflict diamond without even knowing it. Search for and ask about conflict-free diamonds, CanadaMarked diamonds, lab created diamonds, or recycled diamonds, which are much more ethical than other options out there. When in doubt, be sure to talk to your jeweler, but make sure the diamond can be traced back to its origin.
Understand That the Proposal is Going to Take Work
You should know that this proposal is going to require some work to get things right. This goes beyond finding the perfect engagement ring, which is pretty difficult on its own since you have to consider not only the stone but the style among other things. Perhaps one of the first steps to take for your proposal is to start saving. The proposal itself may cost you a pretty penny, and you still need money for the wedding and reception.
According to a popular proposal planning firm quoted by PrimerMagazine.com, “Don’t propose without a plan. Many men get the ring in their pocket and they just want to propose immediately, with no plan. A woman would rather wait a few weeks to get the proposal of her dreams then you propose on the front lawn after a nice jog.” It would be a good idea to list all the items and services you are going to need to pull off this proposal before you get started. Those who are planning to do something elaborate that you want captured on camera may need to consider hiring a professional videographer, who can help you set the stage. Recording a video of the proposal can be done with your smartphone, but you risk issues with the video like lighting, focus, and sound. Keep in mind that you get a chance do this right once, so taking every precaution like hiring professional videographers is wise. The videographer may be able to offer other tips that will make this experience truly magical.
Make the Proposal as Personal as You Can
Planning for your expenses is definitely vital, but it is not the only thing you have to think about since you also have to make sure the moment is personal. This part is going to require some planning as well as your ability to capture the magic from your relationship. There are a number of ways that you can do this; for example, you can make sure the proposal happens during the holidays when most family members and friends are close by to participate in this event.
It may also be a good idea to remember where you both shared something special like the first time you met. According to ArtofManliness.com, “Show your lady that you remember and appreciate the little details of your relationship. Taking her to the place where you first met will let her know how grateful you are to have found her.” Also, keep in mind that the spot does not necessarily have to represent something that happened to you two but rather something that is special to your beloved; for example, why not propose in the same place your partner’s parents proposed or something like that? The point is to find ways to show that your relationship with this person matters to you and that you’ve gone out of your way to highlight how much you care about this proposal and your partnership.
Leave Some Room for Improvisation and Chance
You may be thinking of writing out the entire proposal to ensure that everything is perfect, but this is not necessary. Do your best to resist planning out every aspect of the proposal because this moment needs to come from the heart, especially the proposal itself. There is nothing wrong with using a cheat sheet to help you remember what you have in mind, but it is better to stick to what is in your heart.
Now, it is important to speak slowly when proposing so that you give yourself time to pronounce words clearly, and give yourself enough time to consider your thoughts. Part of the reason you want to leave this to chance is because speaking from the heart is personal. It is going to mean more to your beloved. Reading a proposal could make the moment seem less special, which is something you do not want to risk. Keep in mind that speaking from the heart may also make you a little nervous, and it could even make you cry, which are all positive things because the moment is not only genuine but unforgettable for your loved one and all those involved.
Think of Immortalizing More Than Just the Proposal
There is more to this moment than meets the eye, and you should think about capitalizing on that to make the moment even more special. Those who are planning on discussing your intentions with your beloved’s parents should try to record that moment. The reason you want this moment immortalized is to ensure that you can share it with your loved one once you’ve proposed or with your family in the years to come.
Those who have children or are marrying a person with children may want to immortalize or record the moment you shared your intentions. Chances are that you want the children to give you their blessing before you even ask the most important question you are going to ask your other half. A recording of moments like these can help you edit a truly special video of the entire process, which you can end up treasuring for your lives together. It might be a good idea to keep these moments as natural as possible so that you can capture the real reaction from these individuals who mean so much to both of you. You could capture some of these moments using hidden cameras or wearable cameras so that you do not have to make the moments seem awkward or unnatural.
According to BestMadeWeddingVideos.com, “At the end of the day, your proposal should be meaningful and speak to your relationship in some aspect. If that’s hiring a flock of doves, a fireworks show or a marching band to come trumpeting down your street—then go for it! But always remember that sometimes simplicity is the best and most touching proposal to stick to. Just popping down on one knee is enough to make most people swoon, so never underestimate it.” Taking some of these suggestions into consideration should help make this moment more special. There is no one that knows your relationship like you and your beloved. Make sure that you stay true to what you both want because, at the end of the day, you and your partner’s wishes take precedence over everything else. Take your time to prepare for this proposal and your wedding even if you cannot wait to be married because this moment is too precious to rush through.